Beyoncé, NFL/MLB double-all-star Bo Jackson, Steve Jobs, Martin Luther King, Roger Federer, Eminem, Jennifer Lopez, Will Smith, Prince…what is the One Thing that all they have in Common?
All of them created the Alter Ego and used it to succeed 🙂
Why they do that?
Because they wanted to be great, unstoppable sports people!
Because they wanted to be great, confident and fearless on the stage!
Because they had problem performing a speach in front of a huge audience!
Because they felt that there is a big potential inside them, but found it difficult to rich it out!
What do you get in your own way about? What holds you back from getting what you want? What scares you? Where are you putting the brakes on because of fear or lack of self-perceived ability?
Congratulations, these are where your alter ego is the best at.
Whether you know it, or don’t realize it, as you go about your day, you’re operating with an alter ego. You’re navigating different stages of your life: work, family, friends, public and private, and magnifying different parts of your personality to be successful in each of them. The problem is, you’re more than likely allowing the fears, judgments of others and personal insecurities to govern your actions.
Building an Alter Ego is a way of stepping aside from the parts of you that are riddled with judgments, criticisms, self-doubt, and feelings of being an imposter, empowering you to take actions you’ve been avoiding, and become the best version of yourself.
Why Willpower is not the answer when you want some changes? I call it a Toxic for making changes.
Imagine you want to lose weight. You’ve heard this your whole life. If you’re eating too much, not exercising enough, being too impulsive, not motivated enough then you just don’t have enough willpower. Get it together; you just need to try harder! Where there’s a will, there’s a way! Right? Absolutely NOT!
Most people, when they first pay attention to their health, start by taking a hard line. They starve themselves for a day or spend hours on the treadmill or go cold turkey on a 10-cup-a-day coffee habit. They’ve proved they’ve got willpower, but check back in a week — by then, they’ll have returned to their old ways.
Habits, not Willpower are the real key to change.
This mentality you want to have, when you’re tempted to do something that doesn’t move your life in the direction you want: don’t analyse whether it will hurt to do that thing just this once, analyse how it will impact your habits. Recognize how altering your habits for even just a day or two can have long-term consequences that will require willpower to overcome.
What we’ve found is that managing your TIME is a lot like managing your WEIGHT: just because you know vaguely what to do doesn’t mean you’ll actually follow through.
So, my challenge to you in the weeks to come is to create ONE new habit related to an aspect of your life where you’re currently trying to rely on willpower to make the healthiest, most productive decisions.
Let`s do it!