21 Jan Adapting to the New Normal
Since March, the term “adapting to the new normal” has been repeated endlessly, but it is easier said than done. How do you adapt to the “new normal”, a situation where uncertainty is constantly changing?
For most of us, this is an unprecedented disaster, and it has a profound impact on our daily lives. But this is different from a hurricane or tornado, in which you can look out and see the damage. For most people, destruction is invisible and continuous. So many systems are not functioning properly, which means that work, school, and family life have undergone fundamental changes, and we have almost no experience.
I think we may have underestimated the severity of adversity. It is important to realize that under conditions of uncertainty and long-term stress, it is normal to feel exhausted, to feel ups and downs, to feel exhausted or to experience burnout.
How do you adapt to situations where the changing “new normal” is uncertainty?
The more you are used to solving problems, getting work done, and having routines, the more uncomfortable it is, because none of this is currently possible. You will feel hopeless and helpless, but that is not very good.
Our culture is very focused on solutions, which is a good way of many things, but when you encounter problems that cannot be solved (at least for a while), this is a very destructive way of thinking. The so-called ambiguous loss: any loss that is unclear and lacks a solution. In this case, it is a way of life, loss of ability to meet friends and extended family. It might be the loss of trust in our government. Just like in the past, we have lost the freedom to move freely in our daily lives. Due to school closures, school changes and virtual school education, this also means high-quality education or the loss of habitual overall educational experience. This is the loss of ceremonies such as weddings, graduation ceremonies and funerals, and even lesser “ceremonies” such as going to the gym.
Accept that life is different now.
But accepting does not mean giving up. This means not resisting or antagonizing reality so that you can invest your energy elsewhere. It allows you to enter a more vast psychological space, so that you can do some constructive things without falling into a state of psychological self-torture. Expect less of yourself. People have to live their lives without the support of many systems that have partially or completely collapsed. In burnout research, many of us feel uncomfortable, which is a kind of selfless boredom. But along with other emotions: disappointment, anger, sadness, sadness, exhaustion, stress, fear, anxiety-and no one can function at full capacity.
Try the idea of ”both – and” thinking.
This method may not be suitable for everyone, but there is an alternative to dual thinking, which many people think helps to deal with ambiguous losses. It’s called “both – and” thinking, which sometimes means embracing some irrational ideas. During the pandemic, this might be-“this is terrible, many people are dead, and this is also the time when our family gets closer.” From a personal point of view-“I am very capable, and now I follow the trend every day.” Of course, this does not mean denying the existence of a pandemic or coronavirus. You have to face reality. But how we construct reality so can help us cope with reality.
Look for new and old activities that can continue to meet your needs.
Many coping suggestions focus on “self-care”, but one of the frustrating pandemic ironies is that many of our self-care activities have also been cancelled. The brain processes the world in two ways: the future and the things we need to follow, and the present and the present, seeing things and touching things. We cannot be restricted by what happens but can use the elements of our natural reward system to build things that we can do no matter what we do. Focus on maintaining and strengthening important relationships. The biggest protective factor for facing adversity and enhancing resilience is social support and keeping in touch with others. This includes helping others, even if we feel we are exhausted.
Focus on maintaining and strengthening important relationships.
Helping others is one of the win-win strategies for taking action, because we all feel helpless and frustrated with this pandemic, but when you take action with others, you can control your actions. doing.
Start from a small place and gradually improve. If you do a little bit every day, it will start to add up, and you will gain motivation, even if you miss a day, you can start again. We must be gentle with ourselves, move on and start again.
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