If you read this definition carefully, you can find everything you need in order to conceptually understand the meaning of mindfulness:
Awareness that arises: is the GOAL of mindfulness, i.e. the main thing you can expect from practicing mindfulness.
Through paying attention in the present moment: this is WHAT you do when you practice mindfulness, i.e. use your senses and observe what happens moment by moment.
On purpose: this part of the definition underlines that it is not something you just do randomly, but with INTENTION.
Non-judgementally is about the HOW you pay attention to the present moment. But this is the most tricky part of the definition. Not being judgemental does not mean that you should get rid of judgments, but it is an invitation to being aware of the judgemental parts of yourself, without following them. It is more about not doing than something you should do.
But, as I’ve anticipated, this is only about conceptually defining mindfulness.
Expectations turn up in many forms – from what we expect of ourselves to what others expect of us and we of ourselves- good education- good career- family- children – own house.. As you learn to free yourself from these larger expectations, you can start to notice the smaller ones and not allow them to define your daily experience.Expectations assume a certain result and are future- based.
Every time we get angry we get better of being angry and reinforce the anger habit.Every time we become self-absorbed,we get better at becoming self-absorbed and found unconscious.Every time we get anxious,we get better of being anxious.Practice does make perfect.Without awareness of anger or of self-absorption or any other mind state that can take a over when it arises,we reinforce those synaptic networks within the nervous system that underlie our mindless habits,and from which it becomes very difficult to disentangle ourselves if we are even aware of what is happening at all.
To truly be in the moment, to not be defined by expectation, requires mindful clarity; a heart conditioned by love, compassion, and empathetic joy for others; and equanimity that allows you to receive life however it unfolds. This may seem like an inconceivable challenge, but it can be your goal, your beacon through the fog of your life. Most important, it can inspire and orient you in how to live in the moment. You simply lay aside your expectations as best as you are able.
The success of hypnotherapy depends greatly on the client’s ability to follow instructions and a personal desire for change. As such, hypnotherapy results vary from person to person and I cannot offer any guarantee of success. If you do not want to change, for yourself, you are advised to seek help through other avenues. If you have been sent by another practitioner, then you need to decide on what changes need to be made.